I’ve been keeping this advice in my Voice Memos for awhile, the Voice Memos itself is almost 20 minutes long because I recorded the whole Q&A session. It was a moment when I thought, I would be just fine when meeting Nadiem. But the moment he walked into the room, he sparks more than joy, he was full abundance of charisma. And from that moment, I know I should record the whole conversation. I decided to share it on my #30DayBlogChallenge because keeping it by myself won’t be as good as spreading it to the world.
“Love and spend time with your family, all the time respect them but do not listen to them to career advice.
Take their values, take their experiences, learn how they have dealt with their biggest problem, but do not listen to them with career advice. Parents are the worst career advice, because they do not understand the new world of employment.” Said Nadiem.
I think many people can relate to this because when he told this advice, most of the audiences were chuckling. He then continue, “Say ‘I love you mom, I love you dad or whatever but I’m not gonna listen to your career advice.”
The second one is my favorite advice, to always remind myself to be the best at something. “Orang yang sukses secara finansial itu bukan rata-rata –yang gue liat ya– bukan orang yang ngejar duitnya. Org yang ngejar jadi kaya biasanya nggak bisa jadi kaya, tapi orang yang jatuh cinta pada suatu scale/passion/industri/problem, itu yg biasanya direward oleh market secara finansial. Jadi jangan salah kiblat, orang yang obsess dengan finansial sukses itu bakal jauh lebih sulit mencapai finansial sukses.
Biasanya org yg mencapai finansial sukses adalah orang yang nggak peduli sama duit, cuman dia obsesi terhadap suatu skill, suatu job, suatu problem yg dia sampai dia so good di job itu, duitnya dateng sendiri. Itu seumur idup gua, I felt that and gua ngeliat kiri kanan gua sama kaya gitu. The people who get rewarded in life financially are the people who are the best at what they do, not the people who are trying to get rich. Remember that.”
The third one, is to treat social media like any other drug. “When you are ready, when you realize this, get off social media.
It wont happen now, it might happen like 4, 5 or 10 years from now. But when you are ready, you need to get off it.” He told us what psychologically social media is doing to us, “..is not generally positive. Yes, it is very useful for work, yes it is fun. But it is extremely addictive and the kind a mindset it gives you is not always healthy. You don’t have to get off it, but treat it like any other drug like ngerokok, harus di treat sama aja kaya gula. It is just an addictive drug and you have treat it like that. And you always have question kenapa gua selalu ngga happy kalo liat temen-temen gua happy, kenapa ya gua merasa lebih insecure about how I look kalo gua ngeliat other people look so good on social media, kenapa gua kaya kepengen idupnya dia and all these questions come up itu harus di analyse. So just be aware on what social media is doing to you and be aware on what advertising is doing to you, atau ngga lo bakal di hijack brainnya sama the engine, ini bukan salahnya siapa-siap, bukan salah Facebook or Instagram, it is just how the network is.”
And the last advice Nadiem told us was, to always rajin dengerin diri lo sendiri.
“Rajin-rajin ngedengerin diri sendiri, lo mo bilang otak sendiri, hati nurani sendiri, whatever you call it. Rajin-rajin ngedengerin hati sendiri. Ngedengerin you inner voice. Itu biasanya yang paling akurat yang akan mengguide lo pada path yang bener, dia itu jarang boong. Suara dalam diri kita itu jarang bohong. Dia tu susah bohong, dia bakal selalu kasih tau, “you know, I think you should go here.”
Ada orang yang ngedengerin hati nurani, ada org yg dengerin itu suara yg didalam pikiran, ada org yang ngga dengerin karena dia kebanyakan dengerin suara-suara orang diluar. Bising suara diluar, gua harus gini, karir ini, padahal udah jelas udah harus kesana. Jadi sering-sering kalo bisa meditasi atau apapun, sering-sering dengerin hati sendiri karena itu adalah suara paling jujur.”
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Well, I know It hasn’t been a week since I promise that I will keep writing on my blog by doing the #30DayBlogChallenge, then I started to ditch my blog again. But I think I just need to write straight 30 Days and it doesn’t have to answer all the list of questions hahahah. That’s all from today’s post, I hope the advice could enlighten you as it does to me!